Hello @EternalFlower
It is sad when old friends no longer want to communicate or actually break contact with you! You push me down the memory path of those I’ve tried to stay in touch with after moving towns, jobs, marriage breakup and even moving country for some! It’s hard work! And when you find your letters not returned, or your phone calls, emails etc, unanswered, after a while you just stop trying!
recently reconnect with a friend from school long ago with whom I maintained a friendship through both our first failed marriages but lost contact well into her second marriage when she moved to Sydney out of personal reach kind of, and I was struggling still as a sole parent of 4 trying to work - at times 4 casual jobs! We lived in a beach side town! My kids practically lived at the beach, especially my son, swimming, surfing, fishing, swinging on ropes, hiking through the bush, but attacking the hell out of his sisters if he was at home! Had all sorts of strategies to keep the violence to a minimum if I was at work and they were home together! As an adult? You wouldn’t know this man ever set fire to the bush, emptied peoples bins for fun, attacked his sisters with cricket bats and knives, put holes in the walls! Oh no! He’s won an award for managing difficult government public office. Manages the most abusive people himself and not with abuse- with tolerance and understanding. There’s not a rule he’ll break or a shortcut he’ll take! He frowns on nieces and nephews doing what he did! His own children supervised since early childhood to a rigid degree! Life is interesting and how things change!
I’ll try taking a lesson in YouTube re making photos small enough- just a sudden thought! Not relevant here but back to friends!
managing my kids made it very hard to stay in touch with anyone except very good friends who came to the beach too to share BBQ lunch or tea and let kids run and play! A social worker said to me back then- “ Get your kids outside in public having fun! You don’t harm your children in public” she was right! An hour at the beach in the morning on non school days, again in the afternoon followed by BBQ dinner in the park and home to bed, kept them busy but first you had to find the son often who already escaped to the lake! It was an interesting life I guess but lonely as an adult because being busy doesn’t compensate in any way for relationship, companionship and intimacy!
I hope some new friends arrive in your life but even these are not something you can advertise for or seek out on social media with success hey? They arrive in your life unexpectedly and rarely! So good luck and I’m glad you have friends on the forums to talk to! Wish warm hugs to you!
@EternalFlower
