Happy Thursday! We have a joint counselor at the moment & she is well aware of the financial situation, he has walked out of counselling before so we will tread gently on this one,I trust her to lead & she has now been around long enough to see a cycle of paying quarterly tax and the aftermath. I am working in the background to get some expert advice on how we can get out of this cycle for both our health as it now directly affects mine as well. Baby baby steps!
I found this today - it helped me.
Daily Word Vitamin for Thursday October 16th, 2014: RESILIENCE
If we're seeking to feel freer to express who we really are and live an authentic emotionally colourful life rather than become a beige people pleaser, we'll need to work on our emotional muscle of RESILIENCE.
How? ...
The best way I've found is instead of tormenting ourselves with the futile "why's" when challenging and shitty situations arise; we work our hearts muscle of RESILIENCE better when we ask ourselves "how" we can make changes that will intercept this ever happening again.
I remind myself often when I need to ask myself H.O.W I'm gonna overcome an emotional obstacle ... that this words letters actually answer my question themselves ...
H is for Honestly
O stands for Open-mindedly
and ...
W reminds me to make the necessary changes in myself Willingly.
How do we handle upsetting, inconvenient, emotionally immature people maturely? We take our behaviour up a notch, not stoop to petty paybacks or passive aggressive punishment and respond with the grace of an adult not the grief of a child. We conduct ourselves Honestly, Open-mindedly and Willingly, that's how!
We all accept in adult life that "shit happens" sometimes we can work out "why" it happens and sometimes we can't.
When we focus on "how" we're gonna get through it with our self respect in tact, we can actually create sustainable change.
In order to keep building our hearts RESILIENCE we need to not fear change, but change our fear.
So as we recharge our hearts today, let's check in with ourselves to see if we need to work our RESILIENCE muscle perhaps a little more?
How well do we dust ourselves off and get back to our feet, with our dignity in tact when life has tripped us up with a disappointment?
Is our emotional "down time" improving slowly but surely?
Let's also remember as we take time to rate our emotional fitness that the only person we need to compare our hearts RESILIENCE to is with is the person we were yesterday, last week, las month or last time this shit happened in our lives. Did we react with the immaturity of an upset child, or respond with the grace and maturity of an adult?
I just had to conclude today's Word Vitamin with a visual of one of my most favourite female characters of RESILIENCE, the gorgeously voluptuous Joan from Mad Men!
Love her or hate her, nonetheless what a RESILIENT feast of femininity she is ... enjoy.
